20 Tips for First Date Success

First dates can be nerve-racking and daunting. The desire to make the best impression can make getting through first dates a little difficult. This is normal for everyone. However, here are some of the most helpful first date tips that will make your first date a success.

1. Select the Right Venue

Your choice of venue says a lot about your personality and character. A bar, restaurant, or nightclub may show that you enjoy lively crowds. A day spent a parks or gardens may show that you enjoy nature and the outdoors. Or a museum or concert shows that you like the arts.

2. Make Preparations

Prior to your fist date, preparing a little will help you avoid anxiety. If you met your date online, read through their profile to pick out a few interests that may help sustain the conversation. This gives you the chance to be cheerful and confident.

3. Dress Your Best

Where you go on your first date determines what you wear but be sure to give the best impression. Going out unkempt and sloppy will give a poor first impression that might decrease your chances of a second date.

4. Be Punctual

Time is a sensitive issue on first dates and you should always be punctual to avoid having your date wait on you. However, some unavoidable circumstances may arise. When you can't avoid being late, make sure to keep your date updated via phone call or text and remember to apologize to your date after you arrive.

5. Drop Expectations

In case you have any preconceived expectations of what your date will be like, you may miss the chance to get to know him/her for what they truly are. Be clear on your expectations but remain open to any possibility.

6. Intend to Have Fun

Remember, the main goal of your date is to get things rolling. Don't put so much pressure on yourself and get out to have fun on your date. Even if it's not a romantic match, it's fun meeting new people.

7. Be on Your Best Behavior

This sounds like advice for children, but plenty of adults show bad behavior, especially on dates. Being rude or behaving like a jerk is a guarantee that you'll end up alone before the date ends. Using dirty or abusive words or forgetting your manners like talking with your mouth full makes a terrible first impression.

8. Listen Before Speaking

Learn to take turns while conversing. It is rude to interrupt when your date is speaking, especially when he or she is telling you about themselves. If your date is talking, listen graciously. However, do not hesitate to speak up when it's your turn to speak. 9. Sustain the Conversation

Keep the discussion light on a first date and stay away from trouble topics like previous relationships, politics, or religion. Try add some humor into your conversation. Humor is often a great ice breaker.

10. Show Respect

On the first date, do not expect anything in return. Take it as a chance to get to know your date better. Respect your date by not putting them in compromising situations.

11. Be Open Minded

People are different, try to understand your date as much as possible. Do not shut them out and give up on a date a few minutes after first meeting them. Be interested in the likelihood of something truly cool happening between the two of you.

12. Make It Short

A perfect first date should be short. Maintaining such a short period creates the desire to expect more and probably set up a second date.

13. Do Not Grill

You may be tempted to ask your date a bunch of questions to get to know them better. However, get to know your date by working your questions into your conversation. Don't act like a prosecutor and grill your date by firing off one question after another. This can wear people out make your date seem more like a job interview than a romantic occasion. Look for chances to get acquainted without grilling your date as if it's an interrogation.

14. Be Creative

Be playful and make becoming acquainted with each other fun. Try to play a guessing game rather than asking direct questions. Attempt to connect with your date through cool and unusually activities to break the ice or create the right vibe.

15. Show Interest

After your date tells you a story, follow up with some comments or questions to demonstrate that you are amused or surprised and show that you are listening. Alternatively, after you tell a story, you can ask your date a basic question like "What you think about that?" to engage your date in conversation.

16. Know the Signs

You should know whether your date is enjoying the date. Making eye contact, laughing at your jokes, holding hands, or sharing a kiss are just some of the signs that show that your date is enjoying your company.

17. Know When to Get Physical

Depending on how well your date is going and your date's mood and emotions, you may decide to get physical. For example, a long hug on a first date may lead to an incredible kiss on a second date. Getting physical may be a way to determine whether you are compatible or not. Always trust your instincts.

18. Concentrate on the Experience

Avoid the common notion that every first date should transform into something more. Take the first date as a chance to explore yourself and know your date. It is an opportunity to get together, connect, and create experiences together.

19. Be Honest

Don't pretend that you are having fun if you feel like you're not. Don't be ashamed to let your date know that it's not going to work out. On the other hand, if you enjoyed the first date, do not be reluctant to take things to the next level.

20. Don't Forget to Communicate after Date

Most people are afraid to open themselves up for rejection and fear to be the first one to text or call after the first date. In fact, you will appear more caring if you become the first to text back. Keep the texts simple, for example, "Thank you for a lovely evening" or "I had a really great time". Who knows? It may lead you to a second date.

Finally, it's dependent upon you to choose how you will spend your first date experience. You may not control how your partner will act, however, you can be receptive, demonstrate your best qualities, and, more than anything, get to know each other and have a good time. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9708327

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Let me ask you...

Have you ever felt so deeply connected with your man … his arms around you, feeling warm and happy and giggly and safe and utterly RIGHT…

Only to feel that WALL come down between you?

Almost out of nowhere.

Almost without warning.

And you feel that sickening clench in your stomach as you realize…

He’s pulling away.

And you don’t know why … or how to FIX it.

If you’ve ever experienced anything like this for yourself… then you need to read this article, and watch the short cartoon put together for you at the end, RIGHT NOW…

Because whether YOUR man is ‘checking out’ of the relationship emotionally or not…

You NEED to know what to do when the man you love pulls away from you BEFORE it happens…

…Why?

Because trying to learn how to DRAG his love back to you when you’re already losing him is like trying to learn how to swim when you’re already drowning.

Look: I learned this myself, the hard way.

It cost me relationship after relationship, heartbreak after heartbreak.

And after years of seeing the men I loved walk out of my life, leaving me desperate and sobbing and bloody and broken…

…I finally got smart and decided to take back control of my lovelife.

That’s why I made it my life’s work to uncover the secret psychology of men…

And the incredible hidden NEEDS that your man has… that all men have (but that he will never, EVER reveal to you on his own)…

And I want to share 3 of those secret, POWERFUL needs with you right now.

So if you want to prevent any man from EVER pulling away from you again… and DRAG his desire and devotion 100% back to YOU (where it belongs), forever…

Then there are just THREE things you need to know:

1. Thing One: Understand that all men periodically NEED to pull away from ANY relationship … in exactly the same way YOU need to stop eating dinner when you’re stuffed to bursting.

Weird but true:

To a man, love is like food.

Like such good food.

But even with the BEST food in the world… even if he’s been STARVING for years…

He’s still going to get full eventually.

I’m paraphrasing from Dr John Gray here, of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (and by the way, if you haven’t already read it, you should)…

But basically, a guy’s heart can only hold so much emotional ‘food’ before he needs time to leave the table and digest.

In other words, him ‘pulling away’ is a normal and NATURAL part of the desire cycle.

He “eats”… he gets “full”… then he leaves the table for awhile so that he can get “hungry” again.

In other words, ALL MEN periodically NEED to ‘leave the table’. Otherwise, he’ll never feel that desperate craving to get close you to again.

Which is why having a man periodically pull back from you can actually be an incredibly good thing.

Because IF you handle it right (and I’m about to tell you how), when a man pulls away, it’s a GOLDEN opportunity to snap his attention, love, and desire right back onto you again… and closer than ever before.

Here’s how to do it.

2. Thing Two: When a man pulls away, you must make an IMMEDIATE commitment to yourself to react in a way that most women DON’T, WON’T, OR CAN’T.

Here, I’ll paint you a little picture.

Let’s say you’ve noticed a distance in your man’s behavior lately.

Maybe his cute little texts are getting fewer and further between.

Maybe he’s acting quiet, and distant, and cold, and weird.

Or maybe he’s even told you outright that it’s not working and he ‘needs some space’.

So, what should you DO?

Well, first I’ll tell you what you SHOULDN’T do (which is exactly what 99% of women end up doing):

Freaking out.

Most women react to a man going distant by PANICKING and saying things like:

• ‘What’s wrong?’

• ‘Is it me?’

• ‘Did I do something wrong?’

• ‘Is everything okay?’

• ‘You seem distant…’

But if you panic, freak out, or get ‘clingy’, you will QUICKLY drive him further away than ever.

And here’s why…

When it comes to love, a man’s capacity to feel love and desire for you is INCREDIBLY dependent on just TWO things:

- His ability to make you happy, and …

- His ability to feel your TRUST in him.

When a man perceives that he’s making you happy and that you TRUST him, his brain is flooded in a warm wash of happy chemicals.

He feels pride, ecstasy, euphoria, and a potent surge of sheer masculinity.

In other words, making you happy and earning your trust makes him feel like a MAN.

Don’t forget, most men walk around in their lives in a haze of insecurity, anxiety, and worries of being disrespected.

That’s why it’s so incredibly powerful when he feels your trust and respect in him.

It makes him stand up straight, feel ecstatic and warm and proud and strong, and ready to fight dragons for you just to feel it again. But, if you freak out and react by trying to grab him and DRAG him back to you…

…then he (rightly) perceives that he’s NOT making you happy and you’re NOT trusting him.

Which triggers an instant and devastating surge of UNHAPPY chemicals in his brain.

The result?

Deep in his unconscious brain, he forges an unbreakable chemical link between ‘being around you’ with the unpleasant and deeply repulsive feeling of ‘being disrespected and distrusted as a man’.

And that’s when what WAS a simple, healthy, natural male instinct to ‘pull away’ in order to come CLOSER…

… ow becomes a legitimate WALL between the two of you.

So how do you make sure this NEVER happens to you?

Read on…

3. Thing Three: When a man pulls away, you need to EMBRACE it as the golden opportunity for a deeper, more incredible connection it really is.

If you feel like he’s pulling away (and he might very well be), here’s what you absolutely need to do:

- You MUST relax.

- You MUST NOT stress.

- You MUST remind yourself that all men do this, that it’s natural and healthy, that it’s literally FUELLING his ability to come closer to you…

- And most of all, you must allow him to pull back without freaking out and without trying to ‘fix’ it.

Because most of the time, there’s nothing TO fix.

It’s simply a man being a man … and getting closer to you in the only way he knows how:

By instinctively creating the DISTANCE between you that ends up driving a deeper, more connected CLOSENESS when he comes back your way again.

“But Mirabelle … I can’t just do nothing! How can you be so heartless??”

Ha.

Well, first of all, understand that I’m NOT telling you to do nothing.

What I’m saying is that you must relax.

And relaxing is not ‘nothing’!

Real relaxing means taking positive action to become a stronger, more awesome version of yourself.

Whether that’s reading a novel, seeing a friend, taking a walk, playing with your puppy, cooking a meal, working out…

…anything you do that truly relaxes you is taking positive action to build a better life, a healthier body, a stronger immune system…

… and probably also stronger friendships, better self esteem, and a happier, more balanced mind.

So, relaxing is NOT nothing : )

But … hey, I get it. ‘Relaxing’ can feel downright IMPOSSIBLE when you feel like the man you love is slipping through your fingers and checking out of the relationship emotionally.

Plus, there’s the bitter truth: sometimes, a man pulling away really does spell trouble for your relationship.

But Here’s The Good News:

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Here’s the deal:

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Well, I want you to go and watch that cartoon right now.

And here’s why:

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Make him ‘hungry’ for your love …

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This article comes to you courtesy of Mirabelle Summers, author of Wrap Him Around Your Finger

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Your Girlfriend - Signs She Loves You

When you're in a relationship it's easy to start questioning how the other person really feels if you notice a change in their behavior. Sometimes when a couple has been together for a bit, the woman may seem as though she's drifting away. She may not be as attentive and she may sometimes seem a little distracted. If that's the case in your relationship you may be wondering how exactly your girlfriend feels about you. If she tells you that she's crazy about you but you're not convinced there are some surefire signs she loves you that can help put your concerns to rest.

One of the signs she loves you is that she calls you often just to say hi. When a woman feels emotionally close to a man she loves hearing his voice. She wants to know that he's okay and loves to hear about what's going on in his life. If she seems genuinely interested when you talk about your job or your interests, she's emotionally invested in the relationship. If your girlfriend seems to be more focused on talking about herself, or seems to always change the subject when you bring up things in your life, she may not be the right girl for you.

If she uses words like "us" or "we" when she's talking about the future that's one of the signs she loves you. People do this unconsciously and it's a very good indicator of how they are feeling. When she says "we" as she talks about her own plans in several years that means she is including you because she envisions you two still together then. However, if you notice her often saying "I" or "me" you should be concerned about that. She may see your relationship as more temporary than you do.

Pay special attention to whether she does things to make your life easier. When a woman is in love she wants to do everything in her power to help her man. That may be something as simple as bringing you over dinner once in a while or she may help you work out a schedule for something you've been struggling with at the office. If she goes out of her way to ensure your life is more enriching and less complicated that's one of the telltale signs she loves you.

Don't leave your future with the woman you love to chance. If you are attracted to a certain woman and you want her to reciprocate those feelings, there are specific things you need to do. Don't risk losing her or missing your chance with her because you have no idea what to say or do. For more insight into what women want from the men in their lives, including a way to make yourself irresistible to her.

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